Making Decisions That Bring Positive Results
by Carole Nicolaides
What causes us to freeze when we are faced with a high
impact decision? Why is it that we often don’t know which
way to turn? Being able to use your inner knowledge as a
compass can guide you toward making quality decisions
about your professional and personal life.
Because these decisions can create substantial positive
(or negative) changes in our lives, we often hesitate before
making them. However, once you understand yourself and
the direction you want for your life, decision making
becomes much easier.
This comes from wisdom. Keep in mind; wisdom and
knowledge are often two different things. Wisdom tells us
that once our decisions are not solely focused on the desired
outcome, we begin to realize that there is not only one way
of solving our problems. I am a big believer of letting my
heart guide me. This is the best compass that human beings
have, yet it is one that is so protected, humble and seldom
manifests itself. Most adults lose the privilege of listening to
their inner voice. Once social norms, education, guilt and other
feelings manifest in our logic they come into direct conflict
with our heart.
By placing a heavy emphasis on who you are and what your
long-term goals consist of, you can transform your personal
and professional life completely. Here’s just one example.
One of my coaching clients, Joanna, is a successful
businesswoman who was working hard to get a promotion.
She was spending hours at work, neglecting her family and
particularly herself. When the time came to get that promotion,
she was speechless and disappointed to learn that a new person
- an outsider - got the position that she was working so hard
for the past two years. Needless to say she was devastated.
She could not hide her disappointment and angry feelings.
Worst of all, her motivation fell through the floor. The
situation at home did not get any better. She became angry
with her family and almost ruined her marriage.
Joanna was lucky to realize that she needed to change
something in herself before losing everything that she worked
so hard for the past twenty years. She started reflecting on the
way she was living her life, writing down her typical days and
fears, and then at the end of the week answering the following
· Did my activity this past week make a difference
in someone’s life? Can I expect some results in the near
future? How many people are going to benefit from this?
Will the project that I am working on matter from a year
· How many days did I laugh? Who were the people
that made me feel good? What have I done to thank them?
Does my happiness rely simply on getting from other people?
What did I give to the community this week?
· How many times this week did I take time for myself?
When did I treat myself? What things can someone else in
my life do? How effective was I in delegating work
personally and professionally?
Once she started doing these things, and learned to say no to
tasks that were not her direct responsibility, amazingly she
started seeing results in her emotional well being. She became
a calmer person and she was able to see the things that really
mattered to her. She started being more attentive with people,
caring and most importantly patient.
Her employees loved her new transformation. Without even
doing any extra work she was able to transform her team into
a team of people who fought for a common cause. They had
a sense of belonging and cared about working together.
Joanna’s compass became the questions, “will this matter to
anyone a year from now?” “Does this new project really
matter for our organization’s success?” “Will its stakeholders
benefit from this?” She used her inner knowledge to elevate her
team members. In return, they were able to give their
best at work and at the same time enjoy their personal lives.
We all know that making decisions is one of the most
difficult tasks. Following these simple strategies I hope you
will find it easier to make decisions. Just remember to take
time to learn about yourself. Relax and think of how your
decision will impact not only you but your direct environment.
We are all so interrelated; we can simply not ignore this. The
decisions you make impact many others as well. Making
quality decisions can change your life!
Carole is President of Knowledge Innovation Group
offering business & personal coaching/consulting in Leadership
& Organizational Development and Knowledge Management.
Visit www.kminnovation.com for more info & her FREE Ezine.
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